Sexuality & desire.
A lot of my work is here: with sex, desire, and bodies, and with the shame and history that get tangled up in them. You don't have to arrive with the right words, and nothing you bring will be too much.
Sex, kink, non-monogamy, and sex work are ordinary parts of adult life in my practice. You won't have to teach me the basics, justify your relationships, or soften what you tell me so it's easier to hear.
I work plainly and without euphemism, and I keep the same confidentiality and care here as anywhere else, especially where your desires, relationships, or work carry stigma. The aim is not to fix your sexuality, but to help it feel like yours.
Some of what we might work on together.
Pleasure can be yours again, on your terms.
After an assault or abuse, sex can turn into something braced against rather than wanted: numb, frightening, or simply absent. That's a normal response to harm, not a flaw in you, and it doesn't have to be permanent. This is true for women and men alike.
This is slow, optional work, led entirely by you. No timeline, no pressure to perform recovery, no fixed idea of what "better" is meant to look like. We work toward feeling settled in your own body first, and toward the possibility of wanting and enjoying again only when, and if, you want to.
If that's what brings you, you're welcome here, and you won't have to explain or minimise what happened to be taken seriously.
Sex-positive, kink-aware, and sex-worker-affirming, which in practice just means your desires, relationships, and work aren't treated as problems, symptoms, or things you have to justify.
chaplain
interfaith mediation
Peaceful Change (DPC)
sex worker solidarity
The red umbrella is a symbol of solidarity with sex workers: a statement of values, not membership.
info@onistherapy.com
A few lines about what's bringing you is enough. I'll reply within a few working days to arrange a first session, or a short call first if you'd rather check the fit.